I have a strange little
problem in that I am attracting men like flies to
honey. It seems like a curse/blessing of some sort.
Is it really love or is it just lust? I am sure
that you are well aware that all men are dogs really.
It seems my problem comes
from a strange mixture of good looks, sex appeal
and personality. You know, I think most people would
be able to let a good looking brain dead bloke be,
but it's just a bit more difficult do be left alone
when you can actually hold a decent conversation.
I sort of have the need
to be un-involved for a bit too. Discover my innerness.
I'm sick of having my life wrapped around some one
else’s world right now. You know, sort of
sit back and enjoy me for a bit.
I just don't know how
to handle my sex bomb status. The cure it seems
would be to lock myself up at home. But then again
I like to make friends with nice people. And damn
it why not gay men too! You know, enduring friendships.
Here is another question...
Can or can one not sleep with a friend? Or get fresh
with a friend? Can you feel that damn stupid peer
pressure arising out of that question?
I also seem to suffer
from low self-esteem. Bugger that. Somewhere along
the line I just need to get with the picture and
accept that I'm beautiful, proud, intelligent, passionate,
virile and compassionate. Any tips there?
Hmm. I'm at a bit of
a loss, and my friends have no advice.
I wonder if you have
any tips to share with your experience as a Sex
Goddess. I just can't find any books on the subject
and it seems to be a rare affliction.
With love and affection
in every kiss and squeeze.
‘Low self esteem’
I have read your letter
a few times to try and work out what exactly your
problem is and I end up feeling that you are just
a spoilt brat. Petulant and sulky, complaining about
all these men who are attracted to you, and won't
allow you to "discover your innerness".
Whatever that means?
And you are also a mass
of contradictions! One moment you are acknowledging
that you are gorgeous, sexy, intelligent etc, and
the next, you are suffering from low self-esteem.
Which is it to be? People who genuinely suffer from
loss of self-esteem, would not, and could not attribute
themselves to such flamboyant words as "beautiful,
passionate, virile, proud etc.
And as for "all
men are dogs"! How on earth did you come to
that very misguided conclusion? You are a man, so
am I to conclude that you perceive yourself as a
The men who are swarming around you "like flies
to honey" are, no doubt, consumed with lust
(don't even think about love at this stage) and
my advice would be to enjoy what Mother Nature has
given you, before Father Time takes it away! Youth
is not forever, and the day will come when the flies
start buzzing around a decaying and decrepit carcass.
You accredit yourself
with the status of "sex bomb" (your modesty
amuses me!) but do not know how to handle this elevated
position. Well, in two words, "enjoy it”,
but a word of caution, it requires a lot of maintenance.
You are only as good as your last performance, and
the crowds whom you have wooed, long to see you
topple. Whoever said that anything is fair? Just
remember that whatever decadent things you do with
those flies, take care of yourself. You have been
playing ‘safely’ I take it?
As to sleeping with friends,
of course you can! A friend, by definition, is someone
whom you love, admire and trust and so a sexual
intimacy is simply the cherry on the top. But then
some people do find that ramming their tongues up
the anus of a total stranger in a public lavatory
to be an exhilarating experience! So, who is to
Be a little kinder towards
yourself and a touch more tolerant of others. You
seem to have all that it takes...sex appeal, personality...so
don't lock yourself away in all this emotional masturbation,
and let's see you blossom. I'll be the first to
pick the rose!
Thanks for the love and
affection, and where exactly did you want to squeeze